Today was super challenging. Not so much for B and not even because of B. Today was big brother's turn. He truly has done remarkably well through all of this with so many major, major changes in his world. He's growing up and overall I've been really happy with the age and phase he is in now. Today was not one of those days. In my parent meeting this morning, he just could not keep himself entertained or quiet. He sat at the table with us and just kept whining and trying to get attention. After a warning or two, I had to go put him in his room and let him cry. After school, he had some time to play with one of the therapists but he wouldn't comply with taking turns running the show (so to speak) so she stopped playing. And he cried and followed her around and just generally behaved very badly. It was a delicate balance to avoid giving attention and also keep him from escalating the behavior.
It's very interesting to have your parenting skills evaluated on a daily basis. It's one thing with B - the therapists are the experts and they are the ones implementing his training. I am a bit at their mercy. But with big brother - it takes some getting used to. I do agree with suggestions they have made and it's kind of nice to have help doing a job that definitely doesn't come with a handbook. It's just weird to have someone here observing 90% of my interactions with my kids. There is a lot less rule bending.
On the bright side, B is still plugging along fantastically. There is a LOT less crying and it's fun to watch him rapidly making progress. I'm looking forward to our review in December to hear their analysis.
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